I am sorry to hear about your wife.

You might pare down the bullet choices some and have fewer options or stretch them out over more than one shooting session.

Work with the ones you shot, then shoot another batch and see if there was anything better about them. If not stick with your first batch for working with.

One way I have found to deal with the seating issue is that I take a press with me (Junior so its fairly light) to the range with me and a seating die.

I pick where I want to start OGIVE length wise for the first 10, I deliberately set the rest out past a length they would engage in the lands.

I shoot the first 5 or 10, then make and adjustment. If I am close to the lands and results not so good, I move them back .005 at a time.

I don't start short, I don't do max loads, but you can reverse it and seat them longer if you are that far off.

I have found the bullet ogives can vary easily by .004 so minimum adjustment is .005 for me. .010 is fine as well but if you are closing in on the lands that could be too much.

My brother picked up a hand press recently to do the same thing.